My plan thus far had always been to wait a few years before going ahead with any of this, but with my sudden realisation that I may have made a bad choice regarding university here in England and my ever growing desire to close the gap in my long distance relationship, I’m starting to feel more than a little impatient! Once I finish college this summer, I have a few choices:
- Find a job (any job!) here at home to gain experience and tide myself over for the next few years until J and I are a little older
- Take a gap year where I hop back and forth between England and Sweden whenever J has time off to see me and try to figure things out (though personally I see little point in this*)
- Take the risk and apply to get a residence permit / personnummer in Sweden so I can move to J and his family as soon as possible
My reasoning behind choice 3? I really want to make some progress with my life – and until I decide to up sticks and move, I’ll be stuck playing a waiting game. However, the whole process of even gaining temporary residence seems to be fraught with obstacles for somebody like me:
- As J won’t be 18 until next year, I am currently unable to apply on the grounds of our plans to eventually marry or even just to cohabit.
- And right now I wouldn’t really be cohabiting with him, as it is his parents whom he lives with that have offered me a place to stay. However, I am unsure as to whether this sort of living situation would be accepted.
- I also can’t apply on the grounds of study or work, as I don’t have a place at a Swedish uni, nor have I been offered a job.
Due to this, I’m a little unsure of my chances of any application I make being accepted. As a young and likely somewhat naive British girl with little money and pretty average grades, what do I really have to offer? The only true, solid thing that I have is my determination to learn Swedish and eventually find work so I can live happily with my partner. This is problematic, as in order to move to Sweden and start an SFI course in preparation for trying to find work in the future, I would first need to receive my personnummer. Until I have this, I will be quite restricted in what I can do and my being in Sweden for any extended period of time will have no real purpose*.
One possibility would be to wait another year or so before applying to make myself a little more “presentable”, but since the processing time for applications seems to be around 11-15 months right now that would likely mean an especially long wait…
Advice please? I’m feeling very lost right now!